Why not change course and get on a new path? How hard can that be? If you live with regret, it’s a hard road. What if the worst thing that could ever happen to you, turns into the best thing? Some of the worst things that can happen can open unimaginable doors. The best part of embracing the things that happen, are the lessons that you are able to learn from it. Everything happens for a reason.
A clean slate is the best place to start from after surviving a disaster. It doesn’t matter what it is, it just helps to keep looking forward. I love Edna Mode from the Disney movie, The Incredibles: “I never look back darling, it distracts from the now.” This is how you can move on and not look back.
Closure is overrated. Not everyone is interested in giving it to you. So, do the things that help you to move forward on your own. Is there something that you regret? Then reconcile yourself to your choices, decisions and actions to take responsibility for what you created. And yes, you created it. Some things you’ll just have to live with.
If you ran from your past problems, don’t expect those who had to clean up your messes to welcome you back with open arms. Roll up your selves, get to work, and don’t expect help. Grow up, and deal with it. You are in no position to demand, and that is the truth.
For those of you who are the ones left to deal with the carnage of someone else’s mess, don’t despair. Your help will come from the sources where you least expect it. And, Karma is real. Leave those who have caused you harm alone, and watch the show. The best advice I ever received from a friend? Never take revenge or retaliate. People’s deeds will always catch up with them, and what comes around goes around. Whatever you do will come back to you, and it’s worse on the back end.
Getting up and dusting yourself off will boost your self esteem, self worth, and earn you respect. Your value in other people’s eyes will increase, and you won’t ever let anyone take what you’ve gained from you. In fact, you won’t be interested in those that were a part of your negative past. You’ll only be focused on those who are part of your positive future. You don’t need anyone from your past that is only interested in destroying your future.