Do you know what your really want? Do you know, or just think you know? It’s a valid question that not to many people ask themselves. Going with the flow is nice, if you don’t mind getting taken off course for years at a time. But, if you know what you really want, you’ll work towards it. Not getting side tracked or distracted. And, getting there much faster than someone that’s just floundering in life.
So why do people flounder? That’s a tough one. It depends on the person. If you’re going through life, and it’s all about a good time… Well, that will cause you to turn around one day and see that everyone else is accomplishing something while you’re still trying to get a grip on your life. Other people just don’t look in the mirror to see the full story. They’d rather look at someone else to tell them what to do. That works when you’re a child, but as an adult? Usually, you’ll end up doing something you hate, just to please someone you love.
No knowing yourself is another reason for not getting what you want. If you don’t know, how is anyone else going to know. If the emphasis is put on impressing people, guess who loses? People love then next new shiny thing, and if you lose your luster because of indecision. Well, out with the old and onto the new. If I love strawberries and you hate them, but eat them anyway. Is it what your wanted? No. Did you enjoy them? No. So, why eat them? Going along to get alone is really just a disguise for not really being yourself and wanting acceptance at all costs.
Knowing what you want involves saying, “No” when necessary. It’s a boundary issue. People without boundaries rarely know what they want. And, they fear those that do. Why? What if I’m not part of the equation? What will I do if they want something separate from me? How will I handle it? Simply put: I don’t know what I want, and if you do, then where do I stand if it doesn’t include me? When you know what you want, this isn’t an issue. You feel comfortable letting someone else be themselves. If they can be themselves, then you can be yours.
Knowing what you want, can keep you focused on the right things. If it’s positive. Negative people are selfish, and only care for themselves. Hence, all the negativity. They love to rain on others’ parades. Especially if the others know what they want, and they don’t. Negative people know they that they don’t want others’ to succeed. They are quick to point out why something doesn’t work. That people only tell you positive things because they’re lying to you. You name it, they’ll find a way to negate it. Know what you want can help you to turn a deaf ear to the Negative Ned and Nell’s of the world.
Knowing what you want takes time, and exposure to different things. What makes you tick? How you function, and what you get excited about in your own little world. What do you like and dislike? What makes your heart race, or calms your spirit. Ask yourself what you really want. If it doesn’t fit with what you’re doing now, then makes some changes. You don’t have to change your entire life, just the parts of if that can get you to where you want to be. Don’t burn bridges, remodel them. Some parts of your life need change, others, just need to be revamped.