This year has taught me a lot about happiness. I’m a happy person. Happiness is about being positive and spreading it around to empower others. Unhappy, negative, miserable people don’t understand that happiness is about looking at the bright side. It’s easy to be negative, and it’s easy to constantly look for the other shoe to drop. So how do happy people continue to be happy despite it all? They don’t look to others to make them happy.
Here are some things that I’ve learned about how to be happy and positive in a negative, hostile environment:
Keep your inner circle positive. You attract like minded individuals. If you’re: negative, critical and judgmental, a gossip, petty, angry, vindictive or a complainer, that will be your inner circle. Happy people have positive, empowering, solutions oriented, caring, giving, and uplifting people surrounding them. These people radiate positive energy, they don’t drain you.
Limit social media. This one goes without saying. Social media has some of the most negative and provocative content around. A surefire way to start a fight is with a statement and/or opinion, meme, or rebuttal with hostile intent. Many cowards use social media to do their dirty work. In the end, it really can be used as a weapon. Limit how much you get into the fray.
Read things that make you feel good. Self help books aren’t the only things that can make you feel good. Books that have happy endings are great for this purpose. Whether it’s a mystery or a Manga, all’s well that ends well.
Follow at least one passion. What do you love to do? Whatever it is, start doing it. If you don’t have a bucket list, then start one. Not only are they fun, but they can get your mind really going. Following your passion will help you to feel alive. And, when things get tough it will give you an edge. It will help keep you going.
Give yourself a break. No matter what’s going on in your life, cut yourself some slack. If you don’t who will? Life is full of roller coaster drops, twists and turns. It’s important to make sure you don’t let it get to you. Not everyone in your life wants to see you do well, or ride off into the sunset. So, you might as well be the one that does.
A positive attitude brings positive people. Negative people play games. They thrive on chaos, confusion, and drama. Positive people bring peace, love and joy. They want to see you up, not down. They empower you, not try to have power over you. They influence, don’t manipulate. You can’t wait to see them, and then are sorry to see them go. They add to and don’t take away from your life. These are the keepers.
A positive attitude brings positive things. What you focus on expands. When you’re positive, people are drawn to you. They want to be around you. Good things start to happen, and keep happening. Your energy is a drawing not a repelling force. When you need something it’s there. When you are ready to do something, things fall into place. You don’t have to fight for it, because it comes to you effortlessly. Attracting what you want instead of what you don’t want.
Being happy means no matter what happens, you see the bright side. Things happen for a reason, and they usually have a way of working themselves out. It’s true. Look for the good in people and in things that happen in your life. Move with confidence that things will work out in your favor. Don’t let life or people get in the way of your happiness. Happiness really is a choice. There is power in choosing happiness in spite of your circumstances. Happy people can and do look for the positive in all situations. No matter what.