Obstacles

What are the obstacles in your life? If you’re looking anywhere other than from within, you’re wasting your time. You whole life will pass you by, chasing fantasies that leave you empty and full of regret. Obstacles are there for a reason, not to be avoided. Are you wasting time trying to avoid things because you don’t want to change? Life isn’t static and trying to keep it that way is only going to cause you frustration, heartache, and cost you what really matters. Are you avoiding the opportunity for meaningful change?

People who are living obstacles are some of the worst offenders. It’s surprising how many people will treat strangers better than the people they claim to care the most about. This is done because they aren’t authentic. All people want to: feel special and important, be honored and encouraged, feel valued. To be able to talk about themselves, and feel like someone genuinely cares about them. Self focused people don’t do this. This type of person is an obstacle to others. Character and integrity issues can cause major problems.

Making poor decisions and bad choices are obstacles. Having problems with delayed gratification, an inability to put others first,  being inconsiderate, lacking empathy, or just plain selfishness with the inability to accept others telling you “no” will cause more harm than good. It guarantees facing these particular problems. Showing insensitivity and immaturity. There are times when you have to act quickly. But, if you get what you want ( by means of manipulation ei. badgering someone to the point of exasperation ), and the then don’t want it… It shows a lack of wisdom. Immaturity is a stumbling block for many people today. Not learning from past mistakes, selfishness, a sense of entitlement, and narcissism are usually present. If you keep making the same mistakes over and over again: it’s time to grow up.

A negative attitude is an obstacle that is a choice. Being negative makes some people feel empowered. Pointing out others flaws, nitpicking, constantly focusing on other people’s faults is a sign that you don’t really like yourself. Picking others apart is a clear indication that you know, without a doubt, that you are fully aware of your own flaws. And, you don’t want others to see them. Too late, they see your personal flaws. Why? Because people only point out what they don’t like about themselves in others, and telling them exactly what they can’t stand about themselves. Each time you criticize another person, they’re getting insight into your inner world. And, it shows you’re blatantly trying to fix something in another person that you need to be working on yourself.

Envy and jealousy are obstacles that keep you and others on edge. Why feel jealous or envious of others?  Desiring for yourself something that someone else has, and wanting or feeling you deserve it is a character flaw. Period. These selfish traits cause major problems because they don’t allow others to enjoy what they have. And, cause unnecessary misery. If you feel powerful by taking from others, that feeling fades, fast. Instead of resenting someone for having something that they’ve been blessed with, why not look for the things you have going for you. Being pleasantly surprised how much you have going for you when you stop looking at others and wishing you could change places changes your perspective.

Running away from your problems is an obstacle that shows personal weakness. Problems are meant to make you stronger, teach you patience, give you strength to persevere, and get you to the next level. Running away won’t make them go away. In fact, the truth is, it only makes things worse. It’s impossible to start over, and think that your personal demons from your past won’t catch up with you. It’s just not going to happen. Fearful, weak people run from life’s problems. Strength doesn’t come from ducking and dodging into every alley you come across when life gets tough. Eventually you run out of places to flee. Facing problems empowers, solve them and move forward.

Empowered people expect obstacles and resolve to overcome them. I’m currently reading the book, “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do”, by Amy Morin. I’m reading each chapter with my kids. They’re old enough to understand the strategies. We’ve faced some challenges over the past couple of years that have made me realize that my kids need these tools and skill sets to be able to make it in life. She has 13 strategies that I want them to embrace and utilize so that they don’t make some of the same mistakes that they’ve had to live through do to the circumstances beyond our control. This is one such resolution, and I’m employing others. Keep searching and keep growing.

Obstacles are a part of life. And if handled well, will bring you success. If not, failure is waiting for another victim to claim. It doesn’t have to be that way. If you embrace obstacles, look at them as paths to making you a better, stronger person, then they aren’t so daunting. If you see them as the enemy, each one will become an impossible challenge that you will fail to overcome. Obstacles should be seen for what they are: a test. You won’t always have the chance to be prepared for them, and they will come at the worst of times. If you embrace them, face them, work through and overcome them, you win. Experiencing a breakthrough in the process.

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