Have you ever wondered why you sometimes can’t make things happen the way you want to? The disappointment, the frustration and the will to move just aren’t there. You can’t seem to get things rolling in a way that will work for you. Worse, it seems to work against you. You get bogged down, and exhausted and it just doesn’t seem to have an end in sight? Welcome to the world of being stuck. Being stuck is like trying to run in quicksand: the faster you run, the quicker you sink. But does it have to be that way? No. How do you avoid getting stuck? Keep it moving: re-frame it.
People don’t like to admit to being stuck. It really is seen as something negative. And, truthfully, it is. But, if you re-frame it, it can propel you to your greatest achievements. Being stuck can actually be a launching pad for doing better and greater things. If you let it.
It can make you sick and tired of being sick and tired. Nothing motivates a person more than having had enough, and wanting to do something about it. Going down the wrong road, can cause you to re-evaluate your life. Whether it’s staring the wrong business, being in the wrong relationship, hanging around the wrong people, starting something new that’s clearly not working, or just plan not facing past mistakes, whatever. That can all change the minute you get sick and tired of it all. By taking action to rectify it, going back to beginning, or going back to the path you should have never left to begin with can change and usually does change your situation.
It can make you start to see the positives of the past that you took for granted. Hindsight really is 20/20. Looking back a former life and seeing what you didn’t want to see ( be it positive or negative ) will help you to move forward. If you were kidding yourself about your past being better than it was: own it. It the opposite is true, that is worse than it was: claim it. There’s not a person alive today that’s had a perfect past, but there are some that had a good one, and didn’t appreciate it. Whatever the case, you need to make peace with it, and if possible amends. Swallow your pride and get it done. You can’t move forward with the regrets of the past holding you hostage.
It can make you stay on the wrong road to save face. Nothing is worse than an ego that can’t move out of the way. Ego’s have ruined more lives than all the wars on the planet. They destroy things when left unchecked. And worse, they cause people to not do the right thing just to save face. What’s more important: letting your ego run the show and ruin your life, or getting a grip and doing what you know is right? Even if it means risking: rejection, embarrassment, humiliation, and public ridicule. It’s still the right thing, and you’ll be able to sleep at night. The truth is, you aren’t fooling anyone, especially yourself. Saving face may make you feel good in the short term, but you will be found out eventually. Damage control only works for so long, then the real damage is done. And, usually permanently.
Being stuck is a choice that many people won’t admit to making, but live out daily. It keeps your from enjoying your life. Being there for those that you love. Creates drama, conflict, strife and hard feelings where there should be none. Lastly, it violates trust. If you can’t move forward on your own, how can anyone trust that you will move forward with them? Think on that one for a minute. Being stuck is the easy way out, you can blame others for your plight. Why give away your personal power? People can only do what you allow, so don’t allow them to keep you stuck. Move on, and take charge of your life. For your own sake. You deserve to live your life the way it was meant to be lived. Being stuck wasn’t part of the plan.