I wasted 20 years of my life on something that I have nothing to show for. There are only 3 good things that have come out of it, but the rest of the time spent was a total waste. Why is it a waste? I have nothing to show for the: time, effort, emotions, sacrifice, or the energy put forth. There has been no show of appreciation, no gratitude, and no apology. Has this ever happened to you? What do you do? Look forward to what’s next and believe that something good can come of it. Moving forward and striving for better, can pave the way for a better more exciting future.
I missed out on some extremely important things: support, compromise, connection, give and take, encouragement, inspiration, appreciation and gratitude, genuine friendship, apologies for wrong doing, trust and benefit of the doubt, honesty, mutual respect, loving kindness, common courtesy, empathy and compassion, accountability, and above all else: loyalty. All these things were absent for 20 years. Things that have been sorely missed. Hindsight really is 20/20. However, restoration can be achieved, from a different source, through different avenues. I know that what’s coming is going to be even better.
These days, I’m really careful who I will spend my time with. I realize if things were different, nothing would have changed. And, I would still have ended up in this place. With everything taken and nothing given in return. I’m grateful that things weren’t worse. The future is on the horizon and it promises much better than the past. Things that weren’t in sight before are now clear. New opportunities are arising daily, with more positive outcomes. The light at the end of the tunnel really isn’t a train, it’s just the sun and it’s brighter than ever.
Time is your most precious commodity. Whether it’s the wrong relationship, a bad friendship, family members that reject and don’t support you, a failing business, or a career with no future: don’t waste your time. It’s the only thing you can’t get back. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Starting over is rough, and no one wants to have to start from rock bottom. And, it’s not the ideal place to start from. Although, many have skyrocketed to success from that place. It is important to realize that no one, and I mean no one wants to start from there. Especially, if they don’t have to. There does come a time, when you have to move on. Don’t worry, you’ll have enough time to be able to start again. Time really can be managed.
So, look to the future, forgive and forget the past. Change your circle, and look towards those who have your best interest in mind. Everyone has an agenda, and theirs should fit yours. If not, don’t waste your time trying to identify, let alone work with theirs. If the agenda doesn’t include anything that is of a mutual benefit, then walk away and don’t look back. It’s a small price to pay for success, peace, love, and a real future. What you lost, may lead you to something much more fulfilling that would not have been found had you stuck around. Don’t waste your time hoping for change. Being incapable of it is one thing, a flat out refusal to is quite another. Your time is valuable, don’t waste it on those things and/or people that don’t deserve it.