Time

Did you know that time is the one asset that everyone has equally, but very few people use wisely? So often I find myself telling one of my kids that procrastination is a time killer. It is. I’m guilty of it myself at times. I’m better about it, but there are times when I’m just not feeling up to getting things done. It’s human nature to avoid things, but you run out of time when you do.

Time is the only resource that you can’t get back once it’s gone. Unlike money, you can’t get the past few years of your life back. So, make the most of what you have now. Once you master your time, you can do what you want with your life. Time is not something that you can play around with. When it’s lost, it really is gone forever. If you don’t think so, ask a dying person what they wish they had more of: time. It has more meaning when you’re out of it.

Because time can equal dollars in business, it pays to make it count. There are only 24 hours in a day, and how you use them matters. Most people spend too much of it trying to be happy. Enough already. Happiness is a mindset, and you won’t get more of it with more time if you’re not happy already. Taking time to enjoy life is one thing, wasting it chasing fantasies is another. Productivity, results and success will make you happy. Those things take time, but you have to be willing to put the time in.

Overworking is another problem that people face when it comes to time. You can’t fit more than 24 hours into a day. It’s just not going to happen. Getting burned out profits no one. It doesn’t increase anything, and has the potential to derail everything. You’ll need others to help you fill in the time constraints. So, think of how much time you want devoted to your business and hire accordingly. Trying to do it all will only cause you to lose time, and money.

Impressing people is a huge time waster. The very people you’re trying to impress will be more impressed when the next, better, more shiny “thing” comes along. The time you spend trying to impress people in business would be better served worrying about improving yourself and you business practices. People are fickle and change their minds in an instant. Be more focused on what you’re doing, and you come out ahead.

Time can be your friend if you treat it right. The world is full of distractions and things that blur your focus. It’s difficult to make good use of your time if you don’t know how much time you need. Knowing what you want and working towards it will help you to make good use of your time. The clock doesn’t stop, but that doesn’t mean that time is a limitless resource.

You do have the option of starting over, and looking towards tomorrow. But, don’t let that become your mantra. Time is the one resource that once wasted, will leave you with regrets. So look at time as something that you don’t want to lose, and you can’t live without. Time won’t let you down. So prove yourself worthy, and make good use of it.

 

 

 

 

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Influence vs. Manipulation

Good leaders know that they need to lead by example. Good leaders also realize that what they do affects everyone else around them. They accept full responsibility for their choices, decision, and actions. These are people of influence. Understanding the full magnitude of their impact on the world around them. Manipulators are the exact opposite. Which one are you?

Influencers are the people that are the least worried about their images. Why is this? Simply put, they are genuine. Not having a false image to protect. Telling the truth to themselves and to others. Not needing to present a persona. Respecting people for who they are, and not trying to change them to suit their own needs. Manipulators are the opposite. They are only concerned with how they are perceived by everyone around them. They by nature are liars, and worse, they believe their own lies. They are disrespectful of other people’s individuality. And, they want power and control.

To be able to influence someone is an honorable thing to do. It’s noble, and involves quite a bit of trust. Influencers make a positive impact that benefits everyone. Manipulators do not. They are out for themselves and for whatever they can get. This is where the problems arise. Many a business, relationship, friendship, or family has been destroyed due to manipulative people and their “influence”. These people are parasites that feed off of others, and leave a wake of destruction in their midst. They don’t improve the lives of others, they destroy them taking pleasure in doing so.

Influencers want to help. Manipulators only want to use. This is essential when you work in business. Without influence you won’t be able to earn people’s trust, or loyalty. With influence, you don’t have to worry about your true self being found out. Manipulators live in constant fear that people will discover the “real them”. So they have to play games. They have to make sure the playing field is never level, and they have to maintain their “image” at all costs.

Being a person of influence simply means that you are invested in other people and their well-being. That you see the world in terms of “we”, and not “me”. This is a foreign concept to many today. In a world with the entitlement mentality, it’s getting harder to find people that want to make an impact for others and not just for themselves. Influence is selfless, manipulation is selfish.

If you really want to succeed and have a prosperous future, then you must learn to influence others to benefit them. Manipulators eventually run out of “suckers” and are left with having to find a new supply of fools. What a life to live. Being genuine doesn’t take much effort, and it doesn’t require you to “cover up” your true self.

 

Skill Sets or Winging It?

There are many talented people out there that aren’t living up to their potential. Ever wonder why? They have the talent, drive and ambition, but lack the skill sets to accomplish true success. They believe that winging it is enough. It’s not. In fact, it can cause you more headache and financial pain in the long run.

When you first start off in any business, you’re excited. And rightfully so. You many find yourself in over your head if you don’t have the right skill sets to make it happen. You can have all the tools in the world, but, they won’t help you if you don’t know what to do with them. So, take the time to learn what you need to for success. It could pay off for years to come.

I read that the only 100% investment is in the education of yourself. It’s the only one with a 100% return if you apply what you’ve learned. And, it’s true. When you learned how to talk, walk, drive, etc… You applied 100% of your education. You had no choice. So why then, do people try to fly blind when it comes to business? It’s easy to start one, and go for broke without many obstacles. It’s keeping it going that can be where the problems start.

So how do you get the skill sets you need? Invest. You have to invest in what you want. Sure there are lots of free resources, but let’s be real: they’re only going to give you a small part of the picture. Time is one of the most wasted resources on the planet. And, unless you have hours upon hours to research, you’re better off paying to learn.

Paid webinars, seminars, coaching sessions, and even classes can help. But the key here is to invest in training. It can save you from financial ruin in the long run. It can also save you time. Why reinvent the wheel, when you can learn from those that have done it before you. The old saying is true: Find someone successful that is doing what you want to do, and learn from them. Look, people deserve to be paid for their time and expertise. Stop trying to go cheap.

I have a cousin who is an architect, and he tells his client one simple thing, you can have it 3 ways: good, fast and cheap. But, you can’t have all 3 at the same time. You can have it fast and cheap, but it won’t be good. You can have it good and fast, but it won’t be cheap. Or, you can have it good and cheap, but it won’t be fast. Get the picture. Which one would you choose? Good and fast definitely won’t be cheap, but will be worth it to your new business.

So take the time to invest in skill sets that can last a lifetime. No one wants to go into business to fail. So let those who were before you help you pave the way. Success is an event, and takes time to cultivate and grow. Just make sure you are getting established in a way that will help you grow and continue. Maybe even expand if that is your wish. Just don’t try to do it all yourself. That’s a surefire way to fail and fail big.

 

 

 

Stop the Coach Poaching…

I used to work with a company that calls it’s distributors “coaches”.  It’s a great company, I loved working for it. It just wasn’t for me in the end. They had a saying that all of us knew called “coach poaching”. In essence: it’s when you go after another distributor to work for another company ( the one that you are working with ). Now, that’s not always a bad thing. If it isn’t working out with the person and their company, that’s actually doing them a favor. But what if they’re successful? Do you really have to “steal” someone from another company? Think about it.

People want a team of winners. Winners are achievers that help to propel you to the top. But, at what price do you want to pay for wooing someone over to your company? Do you really want someone who is willing to jump ship for the next best and shiniest? If they are going to continue in the business they’re in and it’s not a conflict of interest, by all means recruit them. They are ambitious, motivated, busy, and best all appreciate multiple avenues of income. But, if they are so eager to ditch their first partner, and take their team with them… What will happen when the next person comes along?

Loyalty is everything in today’s world, and most people don’t appreciate what real loyalty looks like. So when you have worked with someone that jumps ship, it can really shake up your organization. The worst culprits seem to use social media. They are actually targeting people in business already. Is this a bad thing? No. But, there are enough new people who could use an opportunity to present it too.

Why go after seasoned when you can get new blood into your organization? New people bring new customers and clients. They also aren’t jaded, or have the bad habits that many who have been in the business have. They are usually more coachable, teachable, and trainable. This is really what you want. Duplication is the key to most business practices. Successful businesses have systems, you’re better off training and teaching someone new. They are eager to learn, and will follow your lead.

Network marketing businesses teach that you want busy people to join your business. Why not get someone who is busy doing something else other than business, and help them get going? Bad blood is never good to start with. Why not start with a “greenie” that can become something more? They usually are looking for: more money, less hours, time with family, no commute, and freedom. They also want to make money, aren’t jaded, have no bad habits ( from past network marketing practices ) and are eager to get going. Why not give them a shot? This is the new “YouEconomy” according to Success magazine August 2016 edition. You may be passing up a superstar looking at one who’s reign will be over when the next best thing takes over. Take a chance, find a newbie and give them a shot.

 

If Your Business Explodes, Will You Be Ready?

We’ve all read about business going under within the first 2 years, but what if your business explodes? What then? You’re a raving success. How will you handle it? Will you be able to keep up with the rate of exponential growth? Or will your business bite the dust because you weren’t expecting success so quickly? What will you do? Relax, you’ve got it covered.

When you aren’t ready for it, success can be just as daunting as failure. Most people plan for the best and expect the worst. It’s done all the time. But, what do you do when you’re a smashing success. You enjoy it, and make sure you don’t count on it to carry you through. You still have to maintain whatever it was that you did to get there. The fear of being a one hit wonder will be in the back of your mind. But don’t despair, you don’t have to be.

Plan your work, but be flexible enough to make changes as needed. Business is ever evolving, and you need to be able to roll with the punches. Keep up with the latest technology, and trends. Watch what works and change what doesn’t. People change their minds and that changes the way you’ll do business. Remember, your customers and clients dictate your success, treat them well. You’re doing something right, so don’t forget to ask for their feedback. It worth it.

Don’t be emotionally attached to the outcome. Being is business is going to be the craziest roller coaster that you will ever ride. Ups and downs are part of the territory. One day you’re making money hand over fist, the next no sales. The journey is full of surprises. Don’t let your emotions dictate your business it’s a recipe for disaster.When you run your business based on your feelings, then your success will depend on you being happy all the time. That’s a tall order. Your business is it’s own entity, it’s not an actual part of you. Even if it feels like it.

Be grateful and show humility. Call success a blessing or luck, it doesn’t matter. There are people whose businesses won’t see real or lasting success. So, keep in mind that you are being given a special gift with success from the start. Don’t let it go to your head. Success from the start is a great indication that you are doing something right. So, make sure you take things in stride. You don’t know if you’re have some hard time, but for now enjoy your hard work and watching your dreams come true.

Success from the start is truly amazing, and a great confirmation that you are doing the right thing. It can also fuel your desire to do achieve even more. Let’s face it, it’s also a confidence booster. So, don’t sit around waiting for the other shoe to drop. Enjoy, but stay vigilant. Success needs to worked at to be maintained. The thrill of making it work from the star is an awesome feeling. Embrace it. Think positive and continue to grow. It’s worth it. Congratulations! You’re a success.

 

 

 

So Are You Really A Positive Person?

I’ve heard many a “positive” person use the most negative reinforcement possible. People like this claim that it’s to help. It’s called “misery motivation” in some circles. It very rarely works. In fact, in most cases it backfires. Why does it do the exact opposite? Because it’s not really about the person receiving it, it’s about person spouting it off. Think about it, most people would never want someone to speak to them they way the speak to others. And for good reason, it does more harm than good. It also breeds resentment.

So why are people so good at judging others and not able to withstand the very same judgment themselves? That’s easy: entitlement. Entitled people naturally feel superior to others. Think of this way, they think higher of themselves then they should. And, they have no qualms about expressing it. After all, if I’m better than you, I have the right to let you know so. Yes, that’s their motto.

They usually lack: humility, tend to be proud, and would not allow the other person to save face. That would involve empathy, compassion, and a willingness to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Who in their right mind would ever want to do that? That would mean thinking about the other person first. Are people still able to even conceive that notion? Not sure these days. It’s starting to become extremely rare.

Our society isn’t setting people up for the real world anymore. You have to be able to get along with others. Some people really don’t know how to play well with others. In fact, there are adults today that still love to play games. They don’t realize that adult games have a different set of rules. And, more often than not, they don’t like those rules. They fight them. You have to get along with others to have a happy and fulfilling life. It’s a shame that so many of our fellow human beings don’t get that.

When life is all about me, it becomes self focused and small. There’s only room for you in it. What a way to live. It may be a small world, but there are billions of people living in it. Too bad so many can only see themselves, they don’t realize their impact on others. What you do really does affect others. Whether you want to believe it or not. It really does.

Being a positive person is easy if you just make sure you bring out the best in people by looking at the good things that they do. People appreciate hearing good things about themselves. As long as it’s sincere, it’s all good. If you do have to say something negative, make sure you could take hearing it yourself. That’s the true test. If you can take what you dish out, then go ahead and share. If not, then ask yourself why you’re really doing it. Are you doing it to make yourself feel better? If so, then don’t. You want people to trust you, and being positive helps. People want to know that you’re for them, not against them.

Also, if you have to do it, praise the person first. Then gently tell them what you need to tell them. There will be times when you have to tell someone something that they need to her, not necessarily what they want to hear. So do it with respect, and don’t rob someone of their dignity. They will not only listen to you the next time, but they will welcome your rebuff. Mary Kay Ashe said it best, “Learn how to tell someone to go to Hell, and make them enjoy the trip.” Stellar advice.

 

 

 

 

Do You Believe?

It’s tough to believe in yourself these days. People are constantly on the look out for someone to judge, put down, and feel superior to. Are you guilty? Validation for your hopes and dreams comes at a price: the criticism and disapproval of others. Do you believe in yourself enough to overcome the odds that are against you? Even when things look bleak? The answer is: of course you can.

There will be times when things are going wrong, people let you down, they kick you when you’re down and stomp you. But, that’s all part of the growth process. Not everyone will appreciate your lack of conformity. This is just the nature of things. People really value their own opinions, thoughts, and way of doing things. We’re all human, and we want others to see us as important and vital. But, there are limits. You can’t control another person, make them do things your way, or even win them over to your way of thinking all the time. You good if you can get them to do it half the time. There are people who refuse to accept that. It’s their problem, not yours.

We all want things out of life, and we want to be happy. You need integrity, character, compassion, and insight of others to do that. How many times have you met someone that isn’t good with people. You know the ones: disrespectful, self-righteous, demanding, and condescending. They think that they are the best ones to tell others what they need to do. And, rarely do they do it in a way that’s well received. It’s not necessarily a bad thing to give your 2 cents. But let’s face it: it’s easier to give advice than to live it. This is where belief in yourself comes in.

Do you believe in yourself, even when others are telling you that you can’t do something? Even when they can’t see your vision, hard work, efforts or results? This can be disconcerting. It’s takes perseverance to be able to stay the course no matter what the obstacle. Even when that obstacle means well. People want to see change yesterday, if not sooner. It doesn’t always happen that way.

Some things can change in an instant, and others after a long while. Can you face the adversity that comes with a long wait? No matter how bad things seem? The key word here is: seem. Things can seem desperate, but really be propelling you to a better opportunity, place, or mindset. Are you prepared for what comes next? I love when people who underestimate others, or purposefully trip them up have to watch them win. When they come out on top in the end, they don’t even have to gloat. Success really is it’s own best reward.

Keep in mind that people mean well, even if they are woefully misguided. They are only trying to help. Some are doing more harm than good, but try to remember that their heart can really be in the right place. Sometimes the head and the heart are worlds apart, and don’t always communicate with each other. It’s okay, just forgive them and keep it moving. The only one that really has to believe in you is you. And, if you do, that’s half the battle. Believing in yourself requires faith, and knowing that you can do what you put your mind too. So, believe in yourself, even if no one else does.