Do you try to see things from other people’s point of view? Are you even concerned with the other person? Have you ever tried to talk to someone that refuses to even look at yours? Isn’t it frustrating when you’re trying to get something accomplished and the other person won’t even try to understand what you’re trying to do? And vice versa? When you try to honestly see something from the view point of someone else, communication gets easier.
I love the book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, by Dale Carnegie. He said, if you learn nothing else from this book, it’s the only take away you need. And guess what? He’s right. When you can look at things from the other person’s point of view, you have a better understanding of what that person is trying to convey. It works in business, relationships, families, on the job, and with whomever you meet. It’s something that most people don’t even concern themselves with. Why? It’s all about me, and my wants and needs. Yep, good old fashioned selfishness.
The principle is simple, before you approach someone, look at things they way they would see it. People have a horrible habit of “telling” people who they are, and what they’re like. And, new flash: they don’t have a clue. How many times has someone told you, “I know you’, and was basing it off of their own assumptions or preconceived notions? It happens all the time, no wonder people can’t get along.
If you want to get someone to do something for you, you have to first find a way to get them to cooperate. In other words, think of how you would want to be approached. Would you want someone to approach from a point of understanding? Of course. People just don’t take the time to study people like they should. You can learn a lot just by watching people with an open mind. Close minded individuals love authority, they abuse it. They think it’s their way or the highway. Then, they’re shocked when people take the highway. Difficult people never seem to see themselves as the problem.
People want to feel important and validated. So start with that in mind. You don’t know what another person is thinking, so you really need to ask them. And then, go from there. If you want to make a good impression, think about the other person and what they want and need first. Not only will you get and keep their attention, you’ll earn their admiration and respect as well.